"I know who'd be good for you!"
Awesome! What's he like?
"Well, I think he's Korean. Or maybe Chinese. Or from Hawaii or something..."
Um....Hawaii...That's cool. What's he like?
"Well, I think he's, like, some kind of Asian or something."
I've had this conversation, nearly verbatim, for the last 12 years. I realize the physical may be something difficult to see beyond, but can someone please set me up with somebody who'd be good with my personality instead of operating purely off my genetics?
Here's a word of advice: While matching up your friends is a really nice gesture, and I really do wish people would do it more, I somehow don't buy into the fact that physical similarities are the best route for forming a relationship. Or, more specifically, based on race alone. Trust me. Imagine the random associate from work saying, "Oh. You're Mormon? I know a Mormon. You should go out with him," and magnify your emotional response by 17. Here is how it ends up:
"You LOOK Philippina."
"Are you sure? I know Philippinos and you LOOK exactly like them!"
Well, I'm Chinese and Korean.
"You're not Chinese."
Yes. I am.
"You don't look like it."
Okay. Fine. I'm black.
Not only does this conversation happen more often than I'd like (anytime I meet a returned-missionary from -insert Asian country here-) and I know it's just people trying to be culturally sensitive and "aware," but let me tell you right now, folks. Don't. Please. Just don't argue with someone about their race. It's so tacky. And really embarrassing. For YOU. The likelyhood that you are a racist is slim, but I say this on behalf of all my brothers and sisters of colour who may also be tired of living in a world that professes to be colour-blind, but makes things worse by asserting they are culturally astute when they're not.