Question: What is it that everybody has, and some pirates and thieves try to take?
Last weekend, I got a booty text (one sad long step lazier than the booty call). Confused, and slightly alarmed, I never responded. But I'd be lying to say I hadn't been tempted. While a booty call like that goes against my inner grain, sense of morality, and integrity (as he's not exactly someone I would date or be seen having much of a conversation with), he's attractive. More than that, while we're not remotely intellectually, spiritually, or even personally compatible, the physical attraction is definitely there. It's carnal. And I'm okay with admitting that.
So what IS so wrong with a booty call? It's not like I'd be using him just for his body. He's nice. And I like him. He's really talented. And let's not forget the silk sheets factor. And we have tried going out on actual dates more than a few times, although sporadically. I suppose the only thing really keeping me out of that bed around midnight is the hope that I'll meet someone who I respect. A whole lot. Enough to get me to stay out of the arms, lips, and sheets of a guy that I know I have no future with. What I'm starting to wonder is...Would this guy I'm holding out for even care? I mean, let's say there IS a Mr Wonderful around the corner. Who's to say he'd care if I have a purely physically affectionate relationship tiding me over on the side until? I'd always assumed it would be a reflection of my character, of my integrity, and my self-respect- to NOT respond to a booty call or waste time on a meaningless relationship. But I've gone for 30 years with that attitude! Maybe I've had it all WRONG!
You've probably had a booty call or two. What's your take? If you met someone and found out they were biding time with another booty opportunity before they met wonderful you, would you think less of me? ahem. I mean...HER?
* May I just note that my booty caller is apparently, not devoid of feeling. At the minimum, his pride has been damaged. Usually friendly or at least, sheepishly flirtatious, he has barely spoken to me, and I feel just terrible. But shouldn't I be offended that he would even demote me to booty call status? Do I bring it up and pour lemon on his paper cut of a wound? I'm trying to figure out how to ease his pride while remaining out of his bed...