Wednesday, June 6, 2007

Breakups Suck.

Well. They do.
But ultimately, they are really empowering. How do I know this? Because long, long ago, I discovered this song, and it altered my perception on breaking up FOREVER.

And for those of you who don't watch videos, it's a duet:

I need a little time
To think it over I need a little space
Just on my own
I need a little time
To find my freedom I need a little...

Funny how quick the milk turns sour
Isn't it, isn't it?
Your face has been looking like that for hours
Hasn't it, hasn't it?
Promises, promises turn to dust
Wedding bells just turn to rust
Trust into mistrust

I need a little room
To find myself
I need a little space
To work it out
I need a little room
All alone I need a little...

You need a little room for your big head
Don't you, don't you
You need a little space for a thousand beds
Won't you, won't you?
Lips that promise - fear the worst
Tongue so sharp - the bubble burst
Just into unjust

I've had a little time
To find the truth
Now I've had a little room
To check what's wrong
I've had a little time
And I still love you
I've had a little...

You had a little time
And you had a little fun
Didn't you, didn't you?
While you had yours
Do you think I had none?
Do you, do you?
The Freedom that you wanted back
s yours for good
I hope you're glad
Sad into unsad

I had a little time
To think it over
Had a little room
To work it out
I found a little courage
To call it off
I've had a little time
I've had a little time
I've had a little time
I've had a little time

I'm actually a huge proponant of breaking up, because I figure that I don't want to be with someone who has lukewarm feelings about me anyway. I mean, what am I supposed to do? Convince them that I'm awesome? meh. Not really my style. Harangue them into progressing in a relationship that they clearly don't think is worth the effort? Please. Sounds like too much work. I figure if someone isn't stoked enough on being with me to BE WITH ME, why worry about keeping them around? We'll both be better off alone.

Point being, that if someone chooses to put you off after they've already been with you, the real question becomes not "will they take me back?" but "will I want them back after they treated me like old, smelly cheese?" The answer, my friends, is NO. You do not want them back. They knew how good you were when they had you the first time. If they can't deal with that, they don't deserve you the second time.

If you ever break up with someone, I will most definately give you this album and make you listen to the above song carefully. In addition to The Beautiful South's "A Little Time," on The Breakup playlist:

* I will Survive-
Gloria Gaynor. A classic.
* Anything but Down and My Favourite Mistake- Sheryl Crowe. That woman has been through some bad relationships. I'm pretty positive "Down" must be about Clapton, but I like to think "Mistake" was about Owen Wilson. *sigh.* They can't all be gems.
* You Had Me- Joss Stone. "Hey, Mister, you'll be missing/out on my love and my kissing/Make your mistakes on your own time/...I don't want you here/messing with my mind."
* Girlfriend- The Beautiful South (originally by Pebbles. Yeah. Outstanding cover. Especially when sung by five men.)

Add to this playlist and we'll have one heck of a good time after you ditch your next loser. Especially if your name is Jake.
I also hope this helps out the harpie who thinks I'm sleeping with her boyfriend. If you have to suspect something, DITCH HIM.


caroline said...

farrah, i made a playlist called, "kiss off (girls vs. boys)" during a time that you probably remember that is actually similar to your "new friend's" situation. (however, i told the loser to kiss of, rather than call the unsuspecting girl(s?), cause she(they?), of course, had no idea what he was up to) - i digress... anyway, here are some of the songs i remember (this is a total r&b style mix, cause them girls KNOW)

i will survive - gloria gaynor
me, myself & i - beyonce
real love - mary j. blige
i used to love him - lauryn hill
lost ones - lauryn hill
never gonna get it - en vouge

and i think i added "barracuda" by heart, just cause that song is, as tyra would say, FIERCE.

that's all i can remember for now.

i started a boys vs. girls version for my man friend's breakup and i know it had bill withers, but i can't remember what else.

f*bomb. said...

You know what else is fierce?

Now go on with your bad self.

caroline said...

oh yeah, i forgot one of the best ones!
Mr. Big Stuff - Aretha.

ARETHA. you know??

rachel said...

The Christina's STRIPPED album is pretty good to listen too. I listened to that non-stop when I broke up with my boyfriend...

Kory said...

How could you forget the woman who coined the poetic truth "LOVE IS A BATTLEFIELD"? Try: "Hit me with your best shot", "The Warrior" - and "Heart Breaker"

Pat Benatar Rocks

Dainon said...

I'd love to hear that Beautiful South cover. How would you feel about sending me the mp3, so's I can share in the splendor?

Vanilla Vice said...

I dig Blue Merle for some good break up music - "burning in the sun" and "part of your history" - and let's not forget Maroon 5's epic Songs About Jane.

f*bomb. said...

O, Dainon. You overestimate me. 1) in thinking I know what an MP3 is and 2) in trusting I would know how to "send one over."

I just learned how to burn a cd, remember? Next is learning how to download iTunes. And after that is learning how to text message. Let's take this one step at a time, alright, buddy?

f*bomb. said...

But you should talk with Chloe Elizabeth- she is adorable and she has EXCELLENT taste in music!

Hadz said...

Some great "Eff-You" breakup songs:

*Untouchable Face – Ani Difranco
*I Don’t Care (So There) – The Donnas
*Blood Roses – Tori Amos
*Hate Myself for Loving You - Joan Jett
*You're Breaking My Heart - Harry Nilsson
*What's Left of the Flag-Flogging Molly (angry breakup anthem)
*Cold Hard Bitch – Jet
*Since You’ve Been Gone – Kelly Clarkson (yeah, I said it!)

Hadz said...

Some other good breakup songs...

*Ode To… - Rachael Yamagata
*Tragedy – Brandi Carlile
*Hold On, Hold On – Neko Case
*Woke Up New – The Mountain Goats
*Its Not Over – Secondhand Serenade
*Must I Paint You a Picture – Billy Bragg
*Saints and Soldiers – Dashboard Confessional
*Wake Up Alone – Amy Winehouse
*Don't Speak - No Doubt
*Without You – Motley Crue
*The Streets - Dry Your Eyes
*Joy Division - Love Will Tear Us Apart
*The Breakup Song – Greg Kihn Band
*So Sick – Ne-Yo
*You'll Think of Me - Keith Urban
*Goodbye - Lyfe Jennings
*Hold On To the Night – Richard Marx (ahh...flashbacks of those 8th grade dances)
*Pictures of You – The Cure
*Black – Pearl Jam
*High and Dry – Radiohead
*Love Stinks - J. Geils Band

f*bomb. said...

Does everyone else love Jared as much as I do right now?

Kelly Clarkson...Say it loud, say it proud, J-Rad!

Seymour Glass said...

i tend to enjoy U2's _Achtung Baby_, ,an album about Edge's divorce, Pantera's "This Love," and this little clip from one of my favorite movies: