Breakups Suck.

Well. They do.
But ultimately, they are really empowering. How do I know this? Because long, long ago, I discovered this song, and it altered my perception on breaking up FOREVER.

http://www.ifilm.com/video/2790939

And for those of you who don't watch videos, it's a duet:

I need a little time
To think it over I need a little space
Just on my own
I need a little time
To find my freedom I need a little...

Funny how quick the milk turns sour
Isn't it, isn't it?
Your face has been looking like that for hours
Hasn't it, hasn't it?
Promises, promises turn to dust
Wedding bells just turn to rust
Trust into mistrust

I need a little room
To find myself
I need a little space
To work it out
I need a little room
All alone I need a little...

You need a little room for your big head
Don't you, don't you
You need a little space for a thousand beds
Won't you, won't you?
Lips that promise - fear the worst
Tongue so sharp - the bubble burst
Just into unjust

I've had a little time
To find the truth
Now I've had a little room
To check what's wrong
I've had a little time
And I still love you
I've had a little...

You had a little time
And you had a little fun
Didn't you, didn't you?
While you had yours
Do you think I had none?
Do you, do you?
The Freedom that you wanted back
Is yours for good
I hope you're glad
Sad into unsad

I had a little time
To think it over
Had a little room
To work it out
I found a little courage
To call it off
I've had a little time
I've had a little time
I've had a little time
I've had a little time

I'm actually a huge proponant of breaking up, because I figure that I don't want to be with someone who has lukewarm feelings about me anyway. I mean, what am I supposed to do? Convince them that I'm awesome? meh. Not really my style. Harangue them into progressing in a relationship that they clearly don't think is worth the effort? Please. Sounds like too much work. I figure if someone isn't stoked enough on being with me to BE WITH ME, why worry about keeping them around? We'll both be better off alone.

Point being, that if someone chooses to put you off after they've already been with you, the real question becomes not "will they take me back?" but "will I want them back after they treated me like old, smelly cheese?" The answer, my friends, is NO. You do not want them back. They knew how good you were when they had you the first time. If they can't deal with that, they don't deserve you the second time.

If you ever break up with someone, I will most definately give you this album and make you listen to the above song carefully. In addition to The Beautiful South's "A Little Time," on The Breakup playlist:

* I will Survive- Gloria Gaynor. A classic.
* Anything but Down and My Favourite Mistake- Sheryl Crowe. That woman has been through some bad relationships. I'm pretty positive "Down" must be about Clapton, but I like to think "Mistake" was about Owen Wilson. *sigh.* They can't all be gems.
* You Had Me- Joss Stone. "Hey, Mister, you'll be missing/out on my love and my kissing/Make your mistakes on your own time/...I don't want you here/messing with my mind."
* Girlfriend- The Beautiful South (originally by Pebbles. Yeah. Outstanding cover. Especially when sung by five men.)

Add to this playlist and we'll have one heck of a good time after you ditch your next loser. Especially if your name is Jake.
I also hope this helps out the harpie who thinks I'm sleeping with her boyfriend. If you have to suspect something, DITCH HIM.