So what's up with those people who pretend to not know you when you KNOW they know who you are?
I mean, seriously- do you really think you're THAT important, that you can't bear to acknowledge someone you've met before? Now, I admit to being Queen when it comes to lack of observation, both names AND faces seem to escape me- DOUBLE BAD. The only saving grace is that if you remind me of a conversation we've had- a REAL conversation- I will remember it in entirety, word-for-word. Just not necessarily that I had it with you. I digress. We're talking about those people you meet over and over again at parties, in class, at church, and various social settings- but for some reason, they just can't get over themselves enough to just be cordial and acknowledge your prescence. Heaven forbid someone be the first to say hello!
A friend of mine has, admittedly, "one of those faces," where you think you know her, even if you don't. So 80% of the population who meet her, think they somehow know her, even if they don't. And yet, somehow, she consistantly has the same guys playing the game of, "I don't think I know you." FOR YEARS, this goes on. If I were her, I'd ask how he manages to function since the obvious massive head injury. I mean, hell- I freak out and wave to total strangers in public places (usually the grocery store) just because I think I might know them (usually I don't). So how is it that the guy from your class that you had multiple group projects with for two semesters and is friends with your friends still thinks he's fooling anyone by not acknowledging you exist? gee...Was it all really that painful?
Another girlfriend of mine took at least 4 introductions before I recognized her- but each time I remembered who she was, I remembered every single meeting and conversation we'd had over the year of incidental meetings. She ran into a guy she went on a date with, had friends in common with, went hottubbing with...and he was a complete blank when he met her again at a party. Now, that's embarassing, but somewhat understandable. Maybe. But at least he was nice. It's the people who refuse to acknowledge that they even know you. Because, I mean, really, is it sooo difficult to be nice?
Guys like that remind me of why some people hate Morrisey. He's so, "I'm so beautiful and too handsome and popular with the girls- waaaah, I'm such a tortured soul! Whatever shall I wear?!? waaah! My life is SO rough!" (For the record, I love- LOVE- The Smiths.)
What is so damaging to your ego to notice me first? I take a personal affront to such behavior, because, let's be real here: I am a curly-haired, loudmouth, Asian girl in a social sea of cute blondes and predominantly white girls. For me to not recall you right away- well, it's sad, but I can't tell the difference; you all look the same to me. So sometimes I can't remember who is who- but at least I TRY. But for YOU to not recognize ME?!?! Come ON. Who are we kidding here? At LEAST mistake me for some OTHER Asian girl you've met...that happens all the time to my Asian girlfriends. (It's really good for my rep, as my AG's are of impeccable beauty, quality and grace.) Plus, I go out of my way to get to know people. All the time. So the next time someone I've reached out to more than a few times pretends to not know me, I'm gonna punch him in the head. Maybe that will jog his memory.
Trust me. Ignoring people you know is not cool. I can promise you this right now: You are not cool. I'd say most of us are not. We're what- adults who live with roommates and socialize according to church-sponsored activities? Yeah. Hate to break it to you- we're dorks. In fact, it's those who manufacture themselves into popularity that are usually the LEAST cool, since they clearly have no interest in the rest of the world outside of themselves and those they choose to acknowledge. Kind of like the captain of the high school football team who goes to college and get's shaved because everyone can see his glory day ways make him a total douchebag, or the homecoming queen who thought she'd get by on her looks and reputation and grows up to be an overweight receptionist at a go-nowhere job. These people never bothered to develop skills, because they thought glorifying themselves would be enough. It isn't. To pretend like you don't know someone does not give you an air of popularity. It does not make you charming. You will not get away with pretending to be coy. You will look like an arrogant pig. And when I'm done with you, you'll just look like an idiot who got hit by a girl.
As you all return from you lovely vacations, I'd be interested to hear about your social misinteractions with those who think they're too-cool-for-school. Better yet if you can give names, so we may all shun them in future gatherings. SHUN!